Chris and I are very excited about our mawage. We have amazing role models; parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, my sister and brother in law, friends. With that being said, we know it is a lot of work. I have heard from some that the first year of marriage is a walk in the park, others say it is a huge learning experience. After we became engaged, I told Chris that I found it to be very important to go through premarital counseling with an actual counselor. Our uncles will be officiating our wedding (more about the two of them on another post) and both live out of state, therefore having a consistent counseling plan would not have been possible. Therefore, we have agreed upon a local Christian counselor who we will visit with at least six times between now and the wedding.
While we still intend to sit down and talk with our uncles about what we desire from our marriage and what we are/will do to work towards that, I am excited to sit with someone who is a trained counselor as well as Christian who can pick our brains. I am a firm believer that if more couples participated in truthful, bold, fearless premarital counseling, there would be less divorces. Both Chris and I have already agreed that once the vows are made, that's it. So, we have a good seven months to really decide if we are ready to take those vows (I have no fear that we will not). I know premarital counseling will not cure all of our problems, but will provide a setting for discussion so that we can work through it now. However, I pray we are better equipped as a result of this.
So, all you young pups out there getting married soon (and I know there are several), I pray that you consider seeking marriage counseling or even finding a couple who has a few years under their belts who are willing to mentor you and be that bold sounding board. One thing I am really excited about is the day where Chris and I are the more seasoned couple and are able to be there for a young couple (and all the bumps and amazingness between now and then).